Mindset Matters

Many of us have a life, but we are not truly living.  Many of us have liberty, but never truly utilize our freedom to have, be, and do the things we are capable of.  Many of us have the capacity to live a happy, fulfilled life, but unknowingly forfeit our happiness and live lives of quiet desperation.” -Shawn Stevenson

Happiness is an inside job.  Too often we are in search of things outside ourselves to provide us happiness.  We fall into the ‘grass is greener’ syndrome, thinking that “If we have ____, then we will be happy” or ” When I have ____, then everything will be better.”  Satisfaction will not show up in your next job, next vacation, next home, or relationship.  Until you are able to find happiness in the present moment, your search will never end.  Robert Holden of Think Grow Prosper refers to this as “Destination Addiction,” and until you give up the idea that happiness is somewhere else, it will never be where you are.  We need to stop carrying around our past and living in the future.  Be present in each moment, and quit postponing your life.  Choose to be happy now!

Here are a few quick and easy mindset shifts that you can make to live a happier, and therefore healthier life.

1) Start a Gratitude list – every morning, make it a habit to write down 3 things that you are grateful for in the moment.  Carrying around gratitude as your attitude is powerful and can attract more positivity to your life.  I designate a place for my gratitude list in my daily planner, but you can use your phone or a simple sticky note. (side note: the Wellness Warrior Workbook that will be released late fall will include a place for gratitude journaling, so stay tuned!)

2) Connect to the present moment.  Take a deep breath in for 5 seconds, hold for 5 seconds, and release for 5 seconds. Repeat this 5 times.  There is no better way to eliminate distractions and turn down the noise from our daily lives than to tune into our breath.

3) Smile – it’s contagious and it releases endorphins and feel-good hormones!  What are you waiting for?

4) Stop placing your happiness in the control of others.  Take control of you and your mindset, and stop allowing other circumstances and people to be responsible for your ultimate happiness.  Positive affirmations are helpful in achieving this mindset shift.  Find a quote that resonates with you and put it somewhere where you can see it frequently throughout the day.  Make your computer desktop background a picture that takes you to your ‘happy place.’   I have a reminder that goes off on my phone at least once a day that reminds me to connect to whatever positive affirmation I chose for the day.  These little efforts can add up to make a big impact.

5) Release your expectations – what expectations have you been carrying around from one situation to the next?  When your life’s conditions do not match up with the expectations that you have placed on yourself, your job, or your relationships, you are naturally going to be unhappy.  Take some time to reflect on areas of your life that you may need to trade out your expectations in order to move into a place of acceptance.  This doesn’t mean that you can’t shoot for the moon; it just means that your happiness should not be dictated by the fact that you may not have gotten to your destination the way you originally wanted to or perhaps as quickly as you expected. (For more information on expectations, I strongly recommend Christine Hassler’s book: Expectation Hangover)

We all deserve to be happy, live healthy, and engage in a fulfilled life that is in alignment with our core values.  If you are struggling to identify with what your purpose, passion, and values are in life I encourage you to reach out to me.  Personal development is an area that can be addressed with Wellness Coaching; and I would be happy to work with you!

With a smile =) Shelly

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